But in the world of weddings it's more of a blessing than a curse! There is a serious need for a Type A personality – or at least to some degree. An over the top Type A personality may be what some characterize as a “Bridezilla,” a term I hate! I think brides should be specific and purposeful about their weddings. Hopefully, it happens only once. So it is only reasonable that brides and grooms want their day to be PERFECT! Who wouldn't?
But let’s not go overboard. Let’s channel those Type A personality characteristics in a positive manner. Most brides have a vision for their wedding and making that vision come to fruition is the job of a wedding designer/planner/consultant. Funnel that Type A to help us help you!
Tasks of a Type A Bride
1. BUDGET!!!! I will rip the band aid off/jump right in! Type A Personalities need to control. Take control of creating a realistic wedding budget. Sit down with your betrothed and have “The Money Conversation” to determine your expectations, feelings, and beliefs about money. Trust me. This conversation may save your marriage. Remember, your wedding day is only the first day of your marriage. You have to live with this person forever and it is best if you are on the same page about finances. This task may include your partner, a financial consultant, and your wedding planner. But whatever you do, make sure that you have a realistic budget.
2. Guest List. Use that obsessiveness to make sure that you have all the names, addresses, phone numbers, titles, and household member names of all your guests. This list is essential in getting out invitations in a timely manner and getting an accurate guest count for caters and vendors.
3. Rehearsals. Doing a table mock up is essential in making your vision come to life. While David Tutera (http://www.davidtutera.com) and Colin Cowie (link to http://www.colincowie.com/) can provide brides with the ultimate wedding day, most wedding designers need a little more direction—just being honest. So take a day to do a run through of your flowers, the room, the ceremony, the itinerary. Make sure that you are comfortable with everything and give detailed feedback. This will help make sure that your day is the way you and your fiancé have dreamed.
4. Schedules. Make sure that you work with your wedding planner to develop a detailed timeline and itinerary that is widely distributed to everyone involved in the wedding. The timeline should be realistic and agreed upon. Then stick to it! It might seem like you are running early but the time crunches unexpectedly and you will be thankful for any unanticipated “down time” as the day progresses.
5. Contingency Plan. When I went to graduate school, my professors suggested that I have a backup for my backup plan. (Tangent: I actually needed it! I gave a presentation where the PowerPoint projector went dead, the document camera did not work, and the whiteboard had no markers. I had to use a chalkboard!!! Now back to your regularly scheduled planning.) In wedding planning that means that if you are planning an outdoor ceremony, have an indoor location identified. Make sure that the DJ has wireless and wired microphones. Make sure your videographer can capture still phones from his video feed in case your photographer gets into a car accident on the way to the ceremony.
6. Communication Plan. Have an extensive communication plan for your wedding party. Yes, I know delegating to your wedding party is going to be a challenge. I know. I get it. But this is where you excel as a Type A Bride… at least at keeping them informed! Consider a newsletter for your wedding party. This document can feature the itinerary for the wedding activities, contact information for all the members of the wedding party, the names and addresses of venue contacts, duty lists, and anything else you need them to know (See #4 Schedules).
All too often, people are told that Type A personalities are a problem. No so much for weddings. A reasonable level of Type A is positive and beneficial. Don’t feel bad if you are Type A. Embrace your personality and use it to your advantage! Bring your persnicketyness to a wedding planner and watch it bloom into your dream wedding!